Wow…while I respect the church’s authority to have rules upon rules about what goes on in there, shouldn’t these things be up to the bride and groom? I mean, come on. As if in the event there was a "mishap" the couple isn’t really married? Sheesh. That said, I’ve never, ever had a problem with restrictions. Maybe that’s not the norm and maybe my town is just more realistic about those things but I feel pretty lucky after hearing your stories.