I would just put it down to

I would just put it down to experience. It's not worth the fight and at the end of the day it's a shame you can't use the footage. I've been there and understand fully how gutting it is. Walk away and save yourself all the stress. Charge them a fair price to edit it and leave it at that. 

Feel for you bud. 

Shaun

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