I always try to respect the guests wishes but remember that my job is to capture the wedding. If I have to tape someone who doesn’t like being on tape, too bad. But if I can help it, I will leave them out. While I agree that your responsibility is to the client, I remember that the impression I make during the wedding could (and often has) get me more business.
As far as asking for a meal, sure it’s nice to be fed, but I have specifically written in my contract that we do not expect one. Why should the client be responsible to pay top dollar for me to eat the same meal as their family and friends? I can bring PB&J if I need to. However, about 2/3 of my clients offer us a meal anyway and I will definitely not turn it down if offered.
