@Gregory – I’ve lived in that beast’s belly myself so I have some idea of what life pain is (we can discuss off list if you’d like).
My son Seth’s favorite band was Rise Against. and in their song “Swing Life Away” is the line “Let’s compare scars, I’ll tell you who’s is worse”. To me, that just reinforces my belief that we all have our hell’s to march through – They are different from each other but to the person going through it, it is painful and who am I to judge if theirs is better or worse than mine – To each person, it is their own private hell and bad beyond compare.
