Couldn't have said it better myself! I've only been producing wedding videos for less than a year, but one thing I know for certain is you have to talk to people. You can't learn too much. Take Phil Morgan's advice andoffer your services as an assistant or apprentice. I've had no luck in that area, so I've had to go it alone, but I'd already been shooting music videos and home movies for several years; I don't think anyone who's brand new to video can make a good wedding video. I'm charging more as I go, and I'm up front about my low fee when first meeting clients; that way, after viewing a demo, they're confident they're getting a good value in my services.
As for assistants, at my very first wedding, I paid $25 to a friend, who's video newbie, to run the second camera during the ceremony. He attended the rehearsal with me, and we planned our positions and "choreagraphy" that evening. My point: Consider finding a "video buddy." I guarantee these people take their craft more seriously than Uncle Joe the Holiday Taper, and you'll learn from each other and learn more quickly. I now pay my assistants $125 +/- to attend the rehearsal and shoot the ceremony with me; if I need a second camera all day, I'll pay them more. Screen potential assistants carefully. I lucked out by finding a college student majoring in New Media and another guy who has his own indy movie producution company. Needless to say, they have their own gear and know how to use it effectively.
Another tidbit: If you're serious about wedding and event videography, get involved in your community of local wedding professionals. I attended my first meeting of such a group yesterday and made some valuable contacts. (Oddly enough, I was the only videographer there. I wish I could have stayed longer to mingle with more bridal consultants and photographers!)
Good luck!