I hear ya! And I understand exactly where you're coming from. Yet despite the hard work, stress and low pay, the reality is that nearly every one of our clients have estatically, even gushingly, praised our work and has been thrilled.
In the past two years that I've re-entered the wedding video business, we've had only one (out of about fifty) bride who could wear the "bridezilla" label. And even she was happy in the end.
Yes, it's terribly demanding and the pay does not justify the work, time or responsibility, but the satisfaction gained from doing a great job under challenging conditions and by giving a client something that is so important to them and knowing you've done it right - well, that's a nice reward too.